Soak the Sago for 30 mins.
In an sauce pan, bring the water to a boil, and cook the sago till soft and done.
In a nonstick pan, heat the ghee and roast the grated bottle gourd for 5 to 7 mins till it is done.
Add the milk to the lauki and simmer till it is cooked.
Add the cooked sago along with water and simmer together.
Now add the condensed milk, grated coconut and combine everything well.
If the consistency is fine, you can add mixed nuts, else add some more milk as requried.
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